It’s been a very long time since I’ve made this type of post but I’ve been getting a lot of “I bought this dress on a whim and have no idea what to wear it with” questions lately and thought this would be good advice. I’m perfectly fine with giving you coordinate ideas if you need help, but you don’t want to end up with a dress that just sits in the back of your closet collecting dust because you never get around to buying anything to wear it with. Try to come up with at least one coord you could wear it with before buying something to make sure it’s something you will actually wear.
And in the event that you do buy a dress on a whim with no idea what to wear it with, I am happy to help, but I want to know your ideas first! I don’t like just telling you how to wear things, I want to know your ideas and help you make adjustments if you think something is missing or just “off.”
It’s been a while since I’ve made a post like this, but it’s something that needed to be said considering the number of people who ask me how they can “tone down” Sweet Lolita.
Background art by Imai Kira
It’s been a good while since I actually made one of my traditional tip posts but this just hit me and I can’t believe I never thought of it. I was looking for a blouse to go with a skirt that I just finished making and then I realized that the bodice of an OP I have is perfect!
It definitely won’t work with every OP, but if you have a solid colored OP that doesn’t have a lot of detailing in the bottom (because it might create lumps in the skirt) and isn’t longer than the skirt, but has a pretty bodice it could be worth experimenting with.
"Friendship isn’t about setting out to change a person into something completely different just because you want him to be a better match or an accessory for you… Friends should make you laugh, make you think, and bring new ideas and experiences to your life, not be some sort of collection of clones of you. If that’s what you want, it would probably be easier just to stay home and talk to your mirror."
-Jillian Venters, Gothic Charm School
Yes, it’s great to have Lolita friends, but Lolita shouldn’t be the only deciding factor. Being the only Lolita around isn’t all that bad.
Especially with OTT styles. Yes, it’s rude to stare, but Lolita can be a lot to take in the first time you see it. Someone might just really like it and they want to make sure they don’t miss anything.
(Because the colors make it hard to read.) “Be very careful when washing your Lolita clothes. A lot of fabric, even good quality fabric, will bleed the first time it is washed. Look for clothing care symbols and and if you can’t find any information on how to wash something, go for drycleaning.”
Based on my experience with washing a few Lolita pieces for the first time today. The amount of dye in the tub was really surprising. I’m thinking about making a tutorial video for washing petticoats and other things as soon as I can get my hands on a video camera.
“You can never be overdressed or overeducated.” -Oscar Wilde
I’ve always found that I prefer to not make a WTB post anyway unless I have a very specific item in mind because I’ll always get those people who are like “I don’t have anything you’re asking for, but you should take a look at my sale anyway!” If I wanted to do that I would have just opened every sales post without reading the titles…
Inspired by this post.
I always see things popping up like this. “I wish there were more things like this” “I wish other styles were more popular” “All I ever see is…”
And it makes me think that people aren’t really looking at everything. They see some posts on tumblr that are probably OTT Sweet because that’s the most popular style right now and has been for some time but they fail to realize that just because it’s the most popular doesn’t mean they can’t wear other styles. Just because a lot of hair styles use curly hair doesn’t mean you have to. Just because a lot of Lolitas wear wigs doesn’t mean you have to. Just because a lot of Lolitas cover themselves in fuzzy stars and OTT sugary sweet cutsey pastel prints doesn’t mean you have to. Look around instead of just looking in one place. Maybe follow some new blogs. Do some extra research to find what you want rather than just wishing for it to magically appear. You may be pleasantly surprised by what you find.
A tip that was, oddly enough, inspired by my non-Lolita clothing shopping.