This coming Saturday, I’m attending my very first meetup in D.C. for International Lolita Day which I’m thrilled about. Unfortunately my Mom is scared to drive in D.C. (with the traffic and all that) and she has no idea who these Lolis are (I’ve only shared small talk with them on Facebook). I’ve mentioned to her that I’ll be looking into VRE tickets to spare her the traffic, but I don’t know if it’s going to help any. My stepdad knows his way around the city, but I think he’ll have the same issues with me having tea with complete strangers. Mom mentioned something about taking me up there and being a chaperone, but that would be awkward with a group of frillies in their late teens to early twenties. Have you any advice so that I can assure my family that I’ll be safe and sound? I would really appreciate it!
Response from Lolita Tips:
I think chaperoning is taking it a little bit too far, but I don’t think it would be at all a problem for your mom to go with you to drop you off with the group. Then she could meet everyone and learn their names and then she can leave and meet with you after the meetup is over. That way she gets a little peace of mind that you’re not meeting up with a bunch of creepy old perverts but she wouldn’t have to stick around the whole time which can definitely make things awkward.
Another option would be to take a friend with you. Even if you don’t have any Lolita friends, if you ask your group they may be okay with you bringing a friend along (just always make sure to ask, especially in a situation like a tea party where there may be a person limit.) If you can take someone you know and your mom knows it may help make her less nervous about it. (And if you’re at all nervous about your first meetup it might help you as well.)