Just tell her how you feel. Not necessarily about the ita dress thing unless that comes up at an unrelated time and she needs constructive criticism, but when it comes to her always talking about you wearing Lolita there’s no reason you shouldn’t say something. “Hey, I get that you’re enthusiastic and that’s great but there’s more to me than wearing Lolita. I’d prefer if you didn’t bring it up at every opportunity.” Maybe not necessarily just like that, but that’s the idea.
The best way is to give her a quick rundown for starters. Something to the effect of “It’s a Japanese fashion. It’s a lot about being modest and elegant while retaining a cute, girlish look and while there are a lot of styles and sub-styles of Lolita, they all have basic elements such as the silhouette of the skirt, that bring everything together and make it Lolita.” After you get the basics like that, open her up to asking questions. When you answer her questions, try to show her examples too. Having pictures handy (be they in magazines, on your phone, online, etc.) will make explaining easier.
Your friend is being a jerk and there’s really nothing you can do but let her know how you feel and hope for the best. She’s the one in the wrong so it’s her job to mend the friendship. You can like Sweet Lolita if you like it and you can like Meta if you like them. There’s nothing wrong with either thing and she needs to realize that. You don’t have to have the exact same taste in everything to be good friends.
I think the first thing she needs to know is how incredibly ridiculous the idea of having so be super pale is. I spend most days working outside in the sun in Florida of all places for long hours. If I had to be super pale to wear Lolita I would be in big trouble. Secondly she needs to realize that Victorian ladies weren’t the smartest when it comes to beauty treatments. There are accounts of them putting lemon juice and venom in their eyes to make them sparkle but I can’t think of any modern person who would see either of those things as a good idea. The next thing she needs to consider is, what’s the point of being pale if she’s too sick to even have the strength to get dressed in the morning? I know people with anemia and they would never wish it on anyone and tell her that she’s being really stupid for even trying anything so absurd just for the sake of an outdated idea that Lolitas have to be pale. If she refuses to listen to any of this, try actually talking to her family about it because maybe they just don’t realize how serious of a problem it is. If they don’t care, you should take matters into her own hands and maybe take her to a doctor who can tell her just how dangerous this is. It’s one thing to avoid the sun, that’s what parasols are for, but baby powder is just going to make her look like she’s wearing bad vampire makeup and vinegar is just going to make her sick.
Rather than saying that it’s ita which will always come off as an insult and there’s really no way around it, tell her that it’s just not exactly Lolita. Point out the things that are wrong, explain the problems with them, and offer suggestions as to how she could improve on the issues. Explain to her that there are important elements that make something Lolita and if they’re not present it stops being Lolita and maybe use the cake example (You can substitute, add, and remove certain ingredients but if you take away important things like flour and eggs it just stops being cake.) If she decides she likes it the way it is and doesn’t want to change it then that’s up to her, but explain these things to her and request that she not say the outfit is Lolita. There’s no reason to say it’s Lolita when it clearly isn’t and if she’s not claiming that it is there’s not really any harm to be done.
It’s just something that I’ve learned after years of being a doormat. Most of the time if someone is doing something or saying something to me and it’s obvious they’re just trying to get a reaction I just won’t give it to them. Other times I’ve found that something as simple as telling someone in a firm voice that they’re being rude and they need to stop is enough to get them to knock it off. The trick is to not stoop to their level. Point out to them that they’re being stupid whether it be blunt (“You’re being immature and you need stop”) or something with a snarky hint to it (“Where’s my sheep? Oh you’re so clever! I’ve never heard that before! Bravo!”) and leave it at that.
It can be hard sometimes but if someone is hurting you it’s important to make it known to them and whether they were aware of it or not you should do what you can to get it to stop.
To be honest I probably would have just snapped at her at this point. Just tell her to shut up and drop the subject. You’re happy with your glasses and you don’t want to have to deal with her crap anymore and you shouldn’t have to. She’s been saying it for years and you haven’t changed so what makes her think you’re going to now? Be blunt and straight forward with her about it.
Oh well if your boyfriend thinks you look beautiful your guy friend can go screw himself his opinion doesn’t matter one bit. You’re very welcome dear.
As for the least you can expect to pay, that depends a lot on what you’re looking for and what you want to buy, as well as any sizing needs if you would happen to need something custom or not. When you take into account the cost of shipping and things like that though, Bodyline is probably the cheapest legitimate place you can buy from and a dress from them will run around $40-$50.
It sounds like one of two things is going on. It’s possible that your friend is just trying to scare you out of getting close to any other boys because he wants you for himself. Like, he’s trying to pull this “All other guys are assholes and I’m the only guy who thinks you’re beautiful in Lolita and the only guy who ever will” crap. Or it’s also possible that your friend is a douchebag (actually if he’s trying to pull the crap from the first scenario he’s probably a bit of a douchebag either way.)
Whichever one it is though, forget him. There are plenty of Lolitas who have perfectly happy relationships. There are Lolitas with boyfriends and Lolitas with girlfriends and Lolitas who are married happily and have been for years. The idea that you’ll never get a boyfriend because you dress in a way that makes you happy is silly anyway because why would you want to date someone who is that shallow anyway?
As for your nose, there are things you can do with makeup but it will differ depending on what exactly you aren’t happy about. If you search “how to make your nose look smaller” on youtube though you’ll get a ton of results.