Anonymous:
Hello! i was wondering what style of lolita has to do with the white painted faces? sometimes they have flower crowns and look like fairies? is that a new style of mori or am i way off? xD

It’s neither Lolita nor Mori. What you’re thinking of is called Shironuri. It sounds like you’re thinking mostly of Minori’s style which is very elegant and fairy like and sometimes uses elements similar to what you might find in Lolita, Mori, Dolly Kei, etc. but it is a different fashion and subculture with a lot of variations.

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This isn’t to say that you should just do everything you see other people doing, but if you’ve completely hit a dead-end there are plenty of talented people out there to draw inspiration from and learn from.

This isn’t to say that you should just do everything you see other people doing, but if you’ve completely hit a dead-end there are plenty of talented people out there to draw inspiration from and learn from.

A Lolita’s Guide to Traveling

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I’ve just returned from a weekend trip to New York with my best friend and while we were there she suggested I turn a lot of the experiences I was having into Lolita tips. I though it was a great idea because I do get a lot of questions that can relate to my experiences so here it is, my guide to traveling! It’s a very long guide, so I’ve decided to put it under a read more.


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Anonymous:
Hello. I have always admired the grace and beauty of lolita styles, and through sites like your blog (which I've just discovered) have played with the idea of getting into it myself. I see a lot of comments about how lolita is not a costume but a fashion/lifestyle, but with my circumstances I don't see myself becoming able to invest in many coords. I still would really like to work hard on a couple of outfits though for occasional wear. Is this okay, or should I leave it up to the experts?

There is a huge difference between wearing a costume and wearing something for a special occasion. What you would be doing is perfectly fine, you’re only wearing it on occasion, but that doesn’t make it a costume. A costume is something you wear when you are trying to look like someone else and be like someone or something that you are not. Lolita is not a costume because you aren’t trying to look like a specific character and you’re just being yourself rather than trying to be someone you aren’t. Think of it like this, a swimsuit isn’t something that most people would go around wearing every day, right? It’s meant for a special occasion, which is obviously swimming. But that doesn’t make it a costume does it?
Long story short, you do not have to wear Lolita every day and only wearing it on special occasions does not make it a costume.

Anonymous:
What is the difference between fairy kei, sweet lolita, and decora? Thanks!!

They are all actually very different. Checking the Fairy Kei tag would tell you the difference between Fairy Kei and Sweet Lolita. Decora is another style (that actually isn’t all that popular anymore) that is completely separate. Decora is short for “decoration” which tells you that it’s focused on accessories things you can add to make the outfit more interesting. It’s very bold and loud and includes a lot of layering, especially of cute accessories.

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Anonymous:
What should we do if we want to start sewing our own Lolita?? Like, where should we start and what should we do?? Thank you, for everything, your blog is perf.xx

As far as research goes you would start just like anyone else starting Lolita. You would do research on all the major guidelines, the anatomy of a basic coordinate, all that important stuff, and also look around and what different brands have to offer. Even if you’re not planning to buy Lolita, it’s good to look around at what’s out there just to get inspiration, so look at brands, look at magazine scans (or actual Lolita magazines if you can get them), etc. You’ll also want to do a lot of research on fabrics and materials that are often used in Lolita, good quality lace vs bad quality lace, and look around to find where you can find cute Lolita fabric, lace, and trims. Then you’ll want to look into Lolita tutorials and patterns which will definitely make your job easier. This list is a great start for that.

Anonymous:
What are some pet peeves you have with lolita?

My biggest pet peeve is people referring to Lolita as cosplay or a costume. It’s one thing when it’s someone just out somewhere who says “I like you costume.” That’s fine, they’re probably never seen it before and I admit I probably look weird to them, and I’ll usually politely correct them with something like “It isn’t a costume, this is actually just how I dress. Thank you for the compliment though.”
But then I’ll be at a convention or something and I’ll get a “Nice lolita cosplay!” And it just annoys me to no end. You called it Lolita, so you obviously realize that I’m not trying to be a specific character, you realize that Lolita is an actual thing, so why would you think it’s a cosplay? It’s something that’s baffled me for years.

How do you feel about mixing elements of "scene" fashion such as big, colorful hair and colorful makeup, with lolita fashion? Personally I think that those things would fit in well as long as they were done with the right kind of clothing but I was curious to what an actual lolita's response to it would be.

I’ve seen it before but I’ve never seen it actually look good. The styles are much too different and make it very difficult to pull off. Scene makeup tends to be too dramatic for most Lolita styles and the general color palettes tend to be quite different. I’ve seen Scene-ish hair look okay with Lolita a few times, but very rarely. The aesthetics of the two fashions are just so drastically different that it’s hard to imagine combining the looks tastefully.

What is cult party kei and is it considered lolita?

Cult Party Kei is not Lolita. It has some similarities in color and certain accessories, but it does not have the same aesthetic and lacks the defined skirt shape that is necessary for Lolita.
One of the simplest ways to describe Cult Party Kei is that it’s sort of like Dolly Kei but tends to use more pastels as opposed to the jewel tones that are usually found in Dolly Kei. There’s more to it than that of course, but I’m not exactly an expert on it. I believe this is a good reference though.

Anonymous:
A lot of lolitas ask about themed coords, so I thought I'd mention this advice that was said on Kawaii International. If you want to base it on a character, base it on the character enough to show it's that character, but not quite cosplay. Meaning, taking parts of their outfit and colour scheme, and then incorporating it into your outfit. Then your outfit will be themed, but still not cosplay! It kind of doesn't make sense but.. it does at the same time.

It makes absolutely perfect sense and it’s actually something that I’ve said dozens of times.