rinsenpai submitted to lolita-tips:
To that anon asking about a male dressing in lolita:
Dress however you want but I find that if the dress you’re going for has a higher waist to hide your natural waist it can give you the illusion of curves. The skirt will likely be wider than your chest too so it will help balance out your proportions. Here is an example wearing a dress from Dear Celine. I’m pretty rectangular but with the right equipment I(and any male) can look quite fab. :)
Anonymous:Really? I have honestly never heard a male Lolita complain about it. I actually see male Lolitas using the term just as often than female Lolitas. I always use the term quite lovingly and I’ve only ever heard it used affectionately, but I guess it’s one of those sort of hit-or-miss things.
Thanks for the blog recommendation by the way!
Anonymous:The biggest thing you would need actually is knowledge of where to get things that come in custom sizes, that way you can get something that is made specifically to fit your body and I have talked a bit about places you can go to get things custom sized. I do have a brolita tag but there isn’t a whole ton of information in it, but what I do have should be of some help to you.
I actually can’t think of any active communities or blogs specifically for male Lolitas at the moment, but if anyone reading this has any links, please share them!
Anonymous:I don’t see why brolitas shouldn’t be welcome! Brolitas are Lolitas too! You’re definitely more than welcome.
tattooeddicks submitted:
for the houston brolita! i am a brolita living in austin and i wrote this post on places to wear lolita! houston, luckily, has a pretty large queer community, so i would say that would probably be the best type of event to wear brolita to. even if you aren’t queer yourself, queer people are more likely to be okay with a dude in a dress than the average person, at least in my experience!
Note from Lolita Tips:
The only thing I would really like to add is that some of these will not work for everyone! I’m sure that as unfortunate as it is, if you go to a more conservative church you will probably have some issues wearing Lolita to church, even if you are more toned down. (And whether you are male or female, if you’re going to wear Lolita to church, please tone it down. People are there to worship, not to look at you and let’s face it, Lolita can be a bit of a distraction to people who aren’t used to if.)
Family gatherings can also be a bit touchy for some people but that’s one that you should be able to gauge on your own fairly easily.
If you’re planning on losing weight I would start your wardrobe out with pieces that have a lot of shirring, that way they can stretch to fit you now and when you lose weight. You’re more than likely going to have to buy things custom made but keep in mind that when you lose weight you’ll probably have to get them altered to fit properly (unless, as I said before, it has a lot of shirring)so if you plan on losing a lot of weight, I wouldn’t recommend buying a lot right away to save you time and money. As for where you can buy, the FAQ can help you with that.
Anonymous:If you’ve never done anything with makeup I recommend watching some of Lisa Eldridge’s videos. Yes, they’re traditionally for females, but her basic videos can give you a lot of great information about basic things like hiding acne, hiding dark circles, applying false eyelashes, choosing makeup for your skin type, etc.
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