I've heard alot about "Lolita Secrets" - Where actually is it? I really want to see what the fuss is about.

It’s basically a Live Journal community where people can anonymously post their secrets about Lolita, sort of like those confession tumblrs you see around. While some of the secrets are serious, most of them are just trolls. The original comm isn’t around anymore, it’s now called Behind the Bows. If nothing else it can be good for a laugh every now and then.